My new TV and a really helpful question for family work.

We’ve always had one TV in my house.  My thought has been that we can negotiate and compromise and that this is, indeed, an important thing for us to do as a family.  I’m certainly not about to judge others for the number of televisions they might have, however it worked for us.  That was, of course, until Covid happened and we found ourselves in isolation.  One of the first things we did then was to order a second TV.  In many ways this highlights for me one of the most important questions I find myself asking when I work with families, namely who needs to come together and who needs to separate.  What I realised over Covid is that because in my family there are lots of things that usually take us in different directions, like school, work and sports, we typically spend much of our time at home in activities that bring us together.  Whether that’s making pizza or negotiating what we will watch on TV our time at home tended to centre on family activities.  Covid however increased the amount of time we all spent together and created a situation in which we needed to have the opportunity to separate.  Much like a new developmental stage Covid created a new challenge in our family and we needed to adapt to this.

In many ways this reflects the sort of transitions we often find ourselves needing to support families to adjust to. Children are constantly growing and families change over time.  The need for individuation emerges, as does the need to connect or reconnect.  The question of who needs to come together within a family system and who needs to have some more space is such a key one in therapy and the answer is different for individual families, whose relationships have often been moulded by their experiences. The answer is also different at different points in time, with developmental stages requiring families to readjust.  For example, often unsettled babies develop a really close relationship with one parent and there needs at some point to be a connection with the other parent in order to balance the family system.  Similarly, adolescents need to be given more space and autonomy within the family system in order to develop.  Sometimes the answer to this question is so clear that a family can readily reflect on this if you raise the question overtly with them in therapy.  Other times it is more complicated and there are layers or patterns that have built up over the years, with deep seated alliances or problematic interactions.

When working on helping members of a family to develop connection or allow separation there are a number of elements that I find useful. Firstly, I think it is helpful to understand the story, or the narrative, the family has. There are undoubtably times when a child can become the “problem” in a family or when a parent has internalised the idea that they are secondary and can’t provide the succour that another parent can.  Understanding the origins of these narratives and gradually thickening these by gently bringing in other examples is useful in helping to shift these narratives.  For example, you might draw out times when the parent has successfully calmed the child to help further develop the story of their relationship.

Sessions also create an important space that gives the family an opportunity to interact in a different way. Activities that bring the family together and have them all work on the one thing will create opportunities for closeness, while activities in which they share individual ideas will support separation.  Having this happen within a session allows you to closely observe the dynamics within the family and naming these often highlights them in a way that allows the family to be more mindful of these patterns.  For example, noticing that a parent’s brusque response when a child is hurt and being gently curious about what the child might need helps the parent to be conscious of this interaction and supports them to try a different way of responding.

Talking with the family about how they can accommodate the need for more connection or more separation in their daily lives is also important.  For example, a parent who struggles to connect with a child might be able to build in some one on one time with that child or a mother who feels overwhelmed and needs some alone time might be able to schedule something each week that allows her to recharge. Family life is so busy that often this is about creating rituals.  Routines such as a family movie night or a father daughter bike ride each weekend create structures that support the family to engage with this process.  Adopting rituals that meet the needs of the family with the understanding that these may change as the family grows and develops can be really helpful.

Over Covid I have realised that watching TV in bed with just one of my children at a time is a lovely experience and even that occasional moments of watching TV alone actually feel quite luxurious! Indeed, the question of who needs to come together and who needs to separate remains very relevant for families who are still in isolation. More generally though it is a great question to keep in mind when working with families, helping them to adapt as they face new challenges or developmental stages.

Dr Fiona Zandt
Clinical Psychologist

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Using picture books in therapy with children.

There are so many wonderful picture books that can be incorporated into therapy. Many children enjoy books and the experience of being read to can often feel nurturing. Books also have a normalising value: their existence implies that other children have experienced similar difficulties and helps the child to feel less alone in their experience. What follows are some tips for using books well in therapy.

Choosing the right book is essential when using books in therapy. You need a book that fits from a developmental point of view, that resonates with the child’s experiences and that provides consistent messages to those you have been providing in therapy. Knowing the book well is essential in this regard and for this reason I often suggest that clinicians have a handful of books they use rather than a whole bookshelf they know less well.

Sometimes therapeutic picture books cover a whole range of materials and can be quite detailed. As therapists we need to consider what we need to focus on with the child at the time, being mindful that there is only so much they can take in at one time. Slowing down and really exploring the section or point that you see as most relevant to the child is essential. This might mean spending considerably more time on one or two pages or even not reading the book in its entirety. It also enables us to come back to different parts of the book later in therapy if this is appropriate and if the child is interested in doing so.

At times children will define the focus for you. For example, if you are using a book to explore worries in the assessment stage noticing what a child focuses on can tell you a lot about the content of their worry and how they experience this. As therapy draws to an end and you are wrapping up with children you might read a book and encourage them to notice what fits with their own story or reflecting on any of the strategies in the book they’ve found particularly helpful.

Checking in with children repeatedly as we read is essential. Providing lots of time for children to reflect and notice whether or not they experience something similar not only provides a wealth of clinical information but also ensures that the child is able to relate to the book. Slowing down, providing examples, and encouraging the child to reflect on any similar experiences they might have had allows us to personalise this.

A book is a great starting point for therapeutic play. Enacting parts of the book or using it as a base for a craft activities allows children to engage with the material covered in the book in a really active way. It allows them to better integrate what they have learnt from the book and supports them to generalise this to their day to day life. Figures, puppets and animals all provide ways of making the story more real and exploring a part of the story in play provides another important opportunity for repetition, thereby supporting a child’s learning. Children may be happy to simply act out the story using toys and having toys that link with the story is often appealing and creates another chance for conversation. Karen Treisman for example has a lovely set of workbooks with associated stuffed toys.

If you are looking for further ideas however you could try introducing a character who has a similar experience to the one featured in the book and asking the child to think about what the character in the book might say to this new character. Alternatively you can try suggesting that you turn the story into a movie or a play and use toys to act it out, videoing it while you do so. Using dress ups and props can also be lots of fun. You can have the child dress up as a character from the book and encouraging the child when they are dressed up to think about a few things the character might say or do.

Making something from a book is one of the easiest ways of bringing it to life for children and has the advantage of allowing them to take it home. Being able to take something home symbolises the taking of the learning from the therapy room into their day to day life and provides opportunities for repetition and sharing the learning with the family. While it is not always practical to let a child take a book home taking home something they have created often works really well. Many books include something that you can readily make using materials you are likely to have in your clinic room. For example, The Huge Bag of Worries, is a wonderful book that lends itself well to creating a big bag of worries. Use a paper bag and have the child draw some worries to put in it, naming their worries as they do so. Visiting Feelings, another favourite book of mine, provides an opportunity to create a door out of cardboard and talk with children about what feelings might be visiting them. The narrative also explores the size, colour and shape of different feelings so having a child mould their different feelings from coloured dough can work well too.

Picture books can be a terrific resource for therapy with children. As with all activities and materials we use however, we need to keep the individual child in mind and use books in a purposeful manner, being conscious of the learning styles and providing opportunities for repetition and generalisation.

For book ideas, check out Suzanne’s list of favourite picture books for using in therapy with children at My Favourite Children’s Books for Therapy.

Dr Fiona Zandt
Clinical Psychologist

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Using recycled materials for therapeutic crafts.

I often look carefully at my household recycling before deciding whether to place it in the recycling bin. It often holds many items that can be re-purposed for craft activities in therapy and is an economical way of providing the child with something they can take home at the end of the session. I’m finding it particularly useful at present however as a way of limiting the amount of cleaning we need to do in the clinic room. As we move back into face to face work I’ve had to reduce the amount of toys I have out at any one time and clean toys and surfaces between sessions. Items that are from my recycling, however, work well as I can utilise them for individual children without needing to purchase items specifically for each child.

So if you are keen to think about re-using some of what is in your recycling, providing children with something they can take as a reminder of the work you have done at the end of the session, and help the environment along the way here are some ideas to get you started –

  • Cardboard boxes are often a great source of thick card and can readily be used to create board games, characters or box puppets. Pasting coloured paper over them or painting them with some colourful paint often gives the plain brown board a new lease on life.
  • Plastic or cardboard inserts, such as those found inside chocolate boxes or packets of biscuits, are often fun to use in therapy. These work well for sorting activities, for example, you might encourage a child to use one to organise the sorts of experiences that lead to them having different emotions. These can also be useful for listing a range of options the child can use in different situations, such as a range of safe ways they can express their anger. Writing these options on small pieces of paper and inserting each into a spot in the insert tray often works well.
  • Vessels of any kind have many uses in therapy and are often easy to source from your recycling. Whether it is small take away food tubs that or shoe boxes, containers of all shapes and sizes can be repurposed for therapy. A small container might be used to hold a magic potion, while a medium-sized one might be perfect for making a lucky dip game. Larger containers can work well as calm boxes or the like.

It is, of course, important that we ensure that any materials we use with children are appropriately cleaned. While this is a priority particularly at the moment it is a crucial consideration even more generally, particularly given the number of children that have food allergies. Washing plastics in hot soapy water or running them through the dishwasher if you can work well and cardboard should be wiped over to ensure it is free of crumbs and to reduce the likelihood of spreading germs.

Using items from your recycling is a great way to create something unique with a child that they can take home. It’s a useful way to manage our materials during the current pandemic and has an added benefit of helping the environment. So next time you are popping something in the recycling have another look and see what you might be inspired to create.

Have fun making,

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Six Top Tips for Telehealth with Children During COVID 19

We’ve put together our top tips for telehealth therapy with children during COVID 19 and self-isolation.

  • Think about what you usually do and what works for your clients and do that online.As therapists we know what works for the children and families we see and we each have our own styles. Rather than trying to change that think about how you can do what you would do face to face online. For example, if you use puppets you can still do so via telehealth. If you do a lot of craft consider asking parents to get some materials ready or make the craft yourself and show the child craft online. You can still read books to children via telehealth if you tend to use these in your sessions and youtube has lots of great clips of books being read so you can always share the screen and listen together if you prefer. Similarly if you love to play card or board games in therapy find online versions that work for you. Don’t forget about your hands on materials. You can still show children cards if you have a favourite therapeutic set or hold up a brain model to show a child if that’s what you would typically do in your clinic room. Children can also be encouraged to use things they have at home, such as playdoh or toys.
  • Embrace the space.Telehealth is a unique and different space. It’s a great opportunity to meet siblings and parents who you might not have the chance to have meet before. It’s also a great opportunity to get a better sense of a child’s home life so do meet pets, take a bedroom tour and let children show you their favourite things. You might like to show the child something of yours or introduce a pet too.Having children in their home environment can also be useful to help children regulate. You can ask parents to set the child up with activities, such as colouring, that are calming prior to the session to help them engage and focus. Similarly you can have some fiddle toys or a stress ball handy so you can model the use of this as a calming strategy and ask that the child find something similar at their house. If you use grounding activities to help children regulate, such as thinking about one thing they can hear, see, smell, feel and taste, you can continue to do this in telehealth sessions. Try drawing symbols for each of the above senses on the online whiteboard as a prompt or draw one on each of your fingers, holding up one at a time so the child can see these.

    Movement is essential when working with children and it’s essential that we remember this when working over telehealth, given that the medium is in many ways better suited to talk based therapy. Small movements such as playing or colouring while talking will suit some children however other children will need opportunities for more movement, such as running or jumping. Generally if you have been working with children face to face you’ll have a good sense already of how much movement they need. Build it into telehealth sessions by being open to the child moving out of their seat and away from the camera for brief periods. Scavenger hunts, run and get…, and dance breaks are all great for building in more movement.

  • Remember the context.This crisis is unprecedented and the impact on children and families is significant. Many children and parents are very anxious about the current situation and it’s important that we help families to understand the impact of this. Social isolation has impacts too and many children are struggling with not getting to see friends and relatives. Most families are faced with the challenge of schooling children in this time of high anxiety while continuing to juggle their own work. For many children the lack of structure and the attention and skills required to negotiate home schooling will be challenge, while for others the reprieve from social interaction will be a relief and they will struggle when the time comes for them to return to daily life.There have been many great resources on Covid-19 to support children to understand the virus, however many families will also need help to understand the impact of anxiety and of social isolation more generally is also likely to be helpful. Supporting children and families understand their own personal situation is important and helping them to develop practical strategies is essential over this time. Developing a household routine, practical considerations around space, building exercise into their day, checking in about how everyone is feeling and ensuring everyone is practicing good self care is crucial in supporting families over this time. While this might seem simple many families need support with these aspects, particularly during this time of high stress. You might, for example, need to help a family understand the sibling conflict they are describing and help them to build in some individual play time as well as strengthening sibling connections with cooperative games and providing guidance on how to manage conflicts.

    In addition to working directly with the family part of this may involve service coordination, with a view to ensuring the family is well supported over this time. The risk of family violence is clearly heightened over this time and our focus needs to be on supporting families to manage this situation as calmly as possible.

    Now is not the time for persisting with your previous therapy goals. It’s time to look at the family’s current situation and discuss together what they need at this point of time. It’s important to recognise that for many families the challenge of coping through this time will take all of their resources and they will be unlikely to be able to do more than that. Other families might re-adjust their focus and decide to use the time they have to build skills that are otherwise difficult to fit into their daily life, such as engaging children in household chores or developing self-care skills.

  • Embrace the learning.We’ve all had a huge learning curve as we’ve moved to telehealth. It’s been anxiety provoking, we’ve made lots of mistakes along the way, and we’ve had to try lots of new strategies and systems. We’ve had to embrace the learning in order to continue supporting the children and families we work with and to continue supporting our own.This is an ideal model for many of the children we work with, particularly those who are anxious about trying new things, give up when they perceive something to be difficult, or are easily upset by mistakes. Don’t be afraid to try new things out in telehealth and share your mistakes and learning as a way of opening up the conversation and provide opportunities for children to be flexible with this too. Let a child know if you are trying something online for the first time and think together about how you might feel or what you might do if it doesn’t work. The less than perfect nature of our telehealth technology means that there are bound to be times when the screen freezes or something else goes wrong so there are often lots of opportunities for facilitating this sort of interaction and conversation.
  • Look at the plus side whenever you can.There has been so much focus on what children and families are missing out on over this period and it is clearly a risky time for many, however it is also useful to think about the positives families may experience over this time. Children may share more with their parents about how they are feeling over this period, their parents may develop a better insight into the challenges they face at school, or they may find new ways of spending time together. Ensuring that you have space in therapy for exploring the family’s experience will allow you to draw on what parents have noticed and make meaning of this. You can also reflect on what they might like to maintain going forward. For example, families who have never walked or played board games together might like to think about how they can make this a part of their regular life.
  • Be kind to the children and families you see and to yourself.Throughout this period we need to have compassion for the children and families we work with as well as for ourselves. We need to be ever mindful of how hard it is to support children and juggle work and other demands, particularly during a time of stress, walking a careful line between providing practical support to parents and being realistic about what they can do. We need to be compassionate and expect that there will be heightened emotions, greater arguments, and more screen time.We also need to accept that there are some limitations to telehealth. While it is a wonderful medium that is currently providing us with a way to continue supporting children and families we can’t do everything we do face to face online. Be mindful of the limitations and consider in an ongoing way the way telehealth is working for each of the individual children and families you see. You might, for example, find that you need to reduce the amount of direct child work you do and increase the amount of parent consultation for some families. Accepting that this is a different medium, with its own strengths and challenges, is important.

    Many of us are parents too and are trying to support other families while being home and looking after our own. Having compassion for how challenging this is for us all and thinking about ways we can make this easier is important, which might mean scheduling sessions differently or having fewer sessions. Finding ways to care for and nurture ourselves over this time is essential.

Dr Fiona Zandt
Clinical Psychologist

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Mistakes and Learning. Developing our online course.

We are so excited to see our 200th enrolment in our Creative Ways to Help Children Manage Emotions online course recently! We learnt so much along the way as we created the course and it caused us to reflect on how important mistakes are in the process of learning. We thought we’d share some of our mistakes and learnings with you, along with some of our reflections on how to support children and families with this in therapy.

Filming our Creative Ways to Help Children Manage Emotions online course was certainly a learning experience. We made so many mistakes along the way and we sometimes wondered whether it was worth persisting. Like all new learning experiences we’ve had to sit with the uncomfortable feeling that not knowing creates, and we’ve had to acknowledge our disappointment and frustration in our mistakes and be willing to learn from these and try again.

Learning a new skill takes a lot of resilience. It requires a vulnerability – a capacity to fail and to try again and again, all the while believing that to do so is worthwhile. It’s a skill we need to promote in the children we see. Talking about our mistakes normalises the experience for children and allows us to demonstrate how mistakes help us learn. Indeed those of you who have our book, Creative Ways to Help Children Managing Big Feelings, may be familiar with our Mistake Jars activity. Similarly when working with students or supervisees we often share some of our mistakes as a way of normalising their experiences and supporting them to value the learning that mistakes foster.

So it is with a playful sharing spirit that we offer up some of the mistakes we made and the learning we gleaned when filming our online course:

We learnt that –

  • We have facial expressions we’ve never noticed before.
  • Filming a workshop takes a lot longer than presenting it face to face.
  • A good quality microphone will pick up a dog sleeping on a beanbag and a budgie chirping in the next room.
  • It is not a good idea to try to film anything when you have six children around.
  • When you manage to arrange for children and pets to be off set you will still have to deal with neighbours’ lawn mowers and power tools.
  • Most importantly, we learnt that it is essential to check that the camera is turned on, focussed, and set to take a video not a series of still photos!

We were able to learn from our mistakes and resolve all these issues, with the exception of our facial expressions, which we’ll need to accept! We have been so pleased to see the positive response to our online course.

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Thinking about thoughts: Considerations for working therapeutically with children

Working with thoughts is a key part of our work as child therapists and it is an important area to reflect on.  When working with children we need to ensure that we approach thoughts in a developmentally appropriate way and in a manner that reflects what we want to convey about thoughts.  What follows is a reflection on some of these aspects as well as an activity that I find useful for introducing thoughts to children.


Developmentally we know that young children use private speech; words spoken out loud that they use to guide their behaviour and manage their emotions.  So in working with children under 7 years we keep our work on thoughts quite limited and utilise private speech, creating activities in which children say helpful words aloud.  Over time however this private speech becomes internalised and children in middle childhood increasingly use inner speech to make sense of their experiences, guide their behaviours, and manage their feelings.   Children in this age group however still need support to notice and understand their thoughts and their parents often need guidance to be able to talk with them about thoughts at home.

How we introduce thoughts into therapy is important and will be influenced by the theoretical models that we use.  We take the view, consistent with ACT, that thoughts are just thoughts.  Part of this model involves normalising both comfortable and uncomfortable thoughts and distancing ourselves from thoughts or not holding them too closely.  The model also involves understanding that thoughts come and go.

If we consider each of these elements in turn we can think more carefully about the way we might introduce these in therapy.  How we distance ourselves from thoughts is important and requires us to be mindful about the language we use.  For example, “I’m thinking…” implies a closer relation with the thought than “I’m having the thought that…” or “My mind is telling me…”  This distancing reduces the power of thoughts and reinforces the idea that they are ‘just’ thoughts.

The language we use around thoughts can also help us reflect their temporary nature.  “Right now I’m having the thought that…” or “sometimes I have the thought that…” implies a time limited experience and helps the child to understand that thoughts come and go.  It suggests that another thought might very easily replace the current thought.

In therapy I often share my thoughts, noting that they are thoughts as I do so.  This helps the child to understand thoughts and often makes them more willing to share their own.   Importantly however, it also enables me to demonstrate that thoughts come and go and to normalise the experience of both comfortable and uncomfortable thoughts.

I often begin with simple thoughts like “I’m having the thought that we should play a game”, integrating these into the session naturally rather than focussing on thoughts too much initially.  Often later in therapy I will move into sharing some uncomfortable thoughts, helping the child to understand by doing so that having uncomfortable and comfortable thoughts is normal.  Understanding that we all have comfortable and uncomfortable thoughts is another element that we usually want children to understand.  You’ll notice that this language is very ACT based and differs a little from more traditional CBT where we might talk about helpful and unhelpful thoughts.  Again the language that you use around thoughts will depend on your theoretical model.

One activity that I often use to assist children to notice and articulate their thoughts requires a Connect Four or four in a row game.  I suggest to the child that we play a game though with each piece we place we make the statement “Sometimes I have the thought that…” and complete this sentence.  For some children my aim in using this activity might simply be to have them notice and name thoughts, in which case I can stick with thoughts such as “Sometimes I have the thought that it’s hard to talk and play this game”.  For other children I might want to elicit thoughts that are around a particular area.  For example, if I’m wanting a child to talk more about their worried thoughts I can share something related on my turn, such as “Sometimes I have the thought that I’m going to mess up when I have to give a talk”.  This can free children up to add some of these thoughts on their turn, while still allowing them the space to choose what they do or don’t share.  If children can’t think of a thought they are still able to place a piece and the game continues.  The game still enables you to model thoughts, which is valuable.

You can also notice thoughts in your session in a similar way.  For example, you can make comments like “It sounds like you are having some thoughts about your friend Ryan.  What is your mind telling you about Ryan?”  Parents can support children to notice thoughts at home by articulating their thoughts in a similar manner.  When discussing challenges with their child they can also be encouraged to say something like “It sounds like you are having the thought that…” or “I can see that thought is really bothering you…”

Interestingly it is easier for some children to engage in thought work than it is for them to engage around feelings.  This is not to say that we should stop noticing and naming feelings for these children.  Indeed continuing to do so is essential, however working on thoughts can sometimes progress the work more quickly and adds an important element, particularly for those children who get caught up in their thoughts when they are feeling anxious or angry.

Sometimes I have the thought that… being thoughtful about working with thoughts is essential.  It is important that we think carefully about what we want children to understand about thoughts and how we convey this.  Activities are part of communicating this to children however it also involves us being thoughtful about how we interact with children and families and what we communicate around thoughts.

Dr Fiona Zandt
Clinical Psychologist (Child and Family)

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Three top tips for therapists new to working with children

1. Learn about child development

Children are not little adults! As child therapists, sometimes our role involves helping parents to understand that their child’s responses and emotions are normal and expected for their developmental stage. Other times, our role involves helping parents to recognise and understand developmental delays or difficulties their child is experiencing. Always, our role involves gaining an understanding of the developmental stage of each child we see and modifying our therapy approach to fit with where that child is at cognitively, socially and emotionally. Having an understanding of child development and its implications for therapy is essential for us to do this.

2. Commit to working with families (and schools too)

Children are embedded in a family system and also a preschool or school system, and working effectively with children means working effectively with these systems. Children generally come to therapy with parents, and as child therapists, we need to build a good rapport with the parents as well as with the child. For therapy to be effective, children need support to practice and generalise the skills they learn with us, and for that, we need the assistance of the adults in their day-to-day lives. Effective therapy often involves a combination of child, parent and family work, as well as communication with teachers too. Taking a systemic approach like this adds so much complexity to child work. At the same time, it provides us with wonderful resources to assist us in creating positive change for the children we see.

3. Prepare to be playful and creative

Children learn by doing – by exploring, experimenting and experiencing. For children to understand therapeutic concepts, we need to translate them from the traditional, adult-oriented talking therapies into a form that is more concrete and meaningful. We do this using play, art, games and metaphor, using hands-on and creative activities that allow children to engage in therapy. Being playful and creative gives children a means to communicate and learn in therapy. It also makes therapy fun – for children and for therapists!

If you would like to learn more about the practical implications of child development for therapy, how to work well with families and schools, and how to be both playful and purposeful in your therapy approach (including lots of fun, creative therapy activities), please check out our Creative Child Therapy Workshops. We offer an online course, in-person workshops, books, and free resources on our website, that are suitable for new and experienced therapists working with children.

Dr Suzanne Barrett
Clinical Psychologist
Creative Child Therapy Workshops.

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This new card set is a treasure! Why I like Dr Karen Treisman’s ‘A Therapeutic Treasure Deck of Grounding, Soothing, Coping and Regulating Cards’.

As a therapist working with children and adolescents, it is essential that I have hands-on materials to support my young clients in exploring therapeutic concepts and engaging in conversation.  Card sets can be one such hands-on resource and can provide a physical and visual prop to scaffold therapeutic conversations. They can also take the pressure off the conversation and reduce its intensity, by giving the young person something to do with their hands and their eyes as they choose and hold the cards and by providing a normalising context.  Card sets have the further benefit of providing many ideas and examples for the young person to choose from, reducing their need to generate the ideas and also reducing the need for me as a therapist to suggest ideas. Instead, the cards can make the suggestions, and the client can be empowered to choose which cards best suit him/her.

When I heard that Dr Karen Treisman was publishing a card set focusing on grounding, soothing, coping and regulating strategies, I was quick to order them, as I had found her recent book very helpful in working with children and adolescents with developmental trauma and I liked her creative approach (Treisman, 2017a).  Dr Treisman has also previously published the card set ‘A Therapeutic Treasure Deck of Feelings and Sentence Completion Cards’, another great resource (Treisman, 2017b). I was not disappointed – these new cards are great and have become one of my favourite sets.  There are 70 cards in the pack, each depicting a different strategy, with lovely and clear pictures. They are simple enough that children can understand them, but the design is not childish, so they can appeal to adolescents and parents too. What I love most about this card set is the huge variety and broad range of the strategies that are included. There are strategies to calm the body as well as the mind, strategies that are active or physical, creative, cognitive, imaginative, sensory, activity-based, and mindfulness-based. Some cards have a number of examples on them to allow clients to personalise the strategy further. Everyone I have used them with has been able to find at least a couple of strategies that they find appealing and would consider trying.

A simple way to use the cards is to spread some or all of them out across the floor and allow the child or adolescent to choose cards that seem interesting to talk about or that they might like to try out for themselves. I find when young people choose strategies for themselves, they are more likely to try them, than if I suggest some strategies. It gives them more control in the conversation, as they can guide the suggestions, and helps me to be collaborative in the process rather than be perceived as expert. Once they have chosen cards, it is helpful to explore and expand on the strategies, and many of the cards have ideas for this outlined in the booklet they come with. Certainly it’s important to try the ideas in session, and to find a way to send them home, whether that is simply lending the child the cards, taking a photo or making a booklet with photocopies. The cards could be used to generate ideas for the child’s physical calm box, where we place tangible, hands-on objects that the child can use for calming or regulating their emotions, such as bubbles for breathing or sensory toys. The ideas could be incorporated into a drawing representing their strategies, or represented visually in a ‘bag of tricks’ or on a paper ‘chill out fan’. The booklet contains many different ideas for creative reminders of the chosen strategies, as well as different ways the cards can be introduced and used in therapy.

This small box contains so many ideas – it certainly deserves its name of a therapeutic treasure deck! I’m sure it will continue to be useful for me in supporting the children and adolescents I work with as well as their parents, to acknowledge their existing ideas and to further widen their repertoire of coping and grounding strategies.

Dr Suzanne Barrett
Clinical Psychologist
Creative Child Therapy Workshops.

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Treisman, K. (2018). A Therapeutic Treasure Deck of Grounding, Soothing, Coping and Regulating Cards. Jessica Kingsley Publishers: UK.
Treisman, K. (2017a). A Therapeutic Treasure Box for Working with Children and Adolescents with Developmental Trauma. Creative Techniques and Activities. Jessica Kingsley Publishers: UK.
Treisman, K. (2017b). A Therapeutic Treasure Deck of Feelings and Sentence Completion Cards. Jessica Kingsley Publishers: UK.


Some of my favourite commercial resources

As a therapist working with children, I’m always on the lookout for new resources and ideas for making therapy fun and engaging for my young clients. Commercial resources can be a great way to keep sessions interesting and to broaden my therapy tools and activities. At one of our recent Creative Child Therapy Workshops, we had some favourite commercial resources on display, and one of the participants mentioned it would be great if we had these written up in a list. I hope she reads this blog and sees that I liked her idea! Here is my list of favourite commercial resources for therapy with children…

Feelings cards by St Luke’s Innovative Resources – It was too hard for me to choose which set of St Luke’s feelings cards to include in my list, as they have several lovely sets! The Bears are a classic, and have been loved by many therapists over the years. They now exist in an app too. Funky Fish Feelings and Stones…have feelings too! are also terrific feelings cards, and are perhaps more appealing to older children. Having feelings visuals is essential for working with children. You’ll find St Luke’s Innovative Resources at

Mood Dudes Poster: How are you feeling today? – This may be my most used commercial resource, as it hangs on my wall making it accessible to any clients who are trying to find the word to describe their emotion. The Mood Dudes are pretty cool, though any good feelings poster could be helpful for this. I found my poster at

Eggspressions by Hape – These are gorgeous wooden eggs each depicting an emotion. They have lovely faces and a nice smooth texture so are great to hold. They can be a nice visual prop for children to communicate their feelings, or for imaginative play with the eggs as characters showing emotions. They come with little stands so they also look great on an office shelf!

Emoji stress balls or ‘stress eggs’ – These are cheap, squishy balls with emojis (or eggs with feelings faces) that I picked up in junk shops. It’s helpful to have some tactile, visual representations of feelings, and these are great because they can be thrown around in games incorporating discussion of the feelings.

Pocket of Stones by St Luke’s Innovative Resources – A little bag containing 12 hand-crafted ceramic heads, each one depicting a different facial expression. Tactile feelings resources are great to have though harder to find, and these ones are gorgeous.

Thoughts and Feelings: A Sentence Completion Card Game by Bright Spots – These are cute, colourful cards, that I have found helpful to incorporate in ‘getting to know you’ games with children.

Totika – This is a Jenga-like therapeutic game, with coloured blocks, and cards with questions corresponding to the coloured block you move. There are a number of card sets with different topics, such as icebreakers, self-esteem or life-skills, which seem best suited to older children or adolescents. It’s a fun, non-threatening way to explore these topics. If you like the idea of creating your own therapeutic Jenga game, so that you can simplify and modify the questions to suit your clients, check out our blog “I wanna play a game! – Playful child assessment and how to make your own therapeutic Jenga.”

Human Brain Cross Section Model in Foam – I have found my foam model of a brain useful when I’m talking with children about the feeling and thinking parts of the brain. I bought mine from Haines Educational online shop at Unfortunately, it didn’t show the amygdala, so I drew it on!

Strengths Cards for Kids by St Luke’s Innovative Resources – St Luke’s strengths cards have been favourites of mine for many years, as they are lovely colourful cards depicting a broad range of strengths. They have a number of strengths cards sets that are suitable for children – I found it hard to choose!

Bundle of Stickers by St Luke’s Innovative Resources – I love the way St Luke’s have sticker versions of their popular card sets. It is so important for us to be helping children generalise their learning from therapy to other environments by sending them home with reminders and prompts. Stickers are a great way to do this! If you are like me and can’t choose between sets, you can choose their Bundle of Stickers which has a sheet of stickers from each set.

A Therapeutic Deck of Grounding, Soothing, Coping and Regulating Cards by Dr Karen Treisman – This is one of my most-used card sets, suitable for children, adolescents, and their parents. The range of strategies covered in this card set is huge, and the variety is impressive, with physical, sensory, cognitive, imaginative, activity-based and mindfulness-based strategies, designed to calm the body and the mind. Available at

Commercial resources can be fun and engaging, and provide different ways to incorporate visual and hands-on materials into therapy with children. They can be a starting point for therapeutic conversations and they can inspire creative activities to extend on the concepts. We would love to hear about your favourite commercial resources – please share in the comments!

Dr Suzanne Barrett
Clinical Psychologist
Creative Child Therapy Workshops.

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Two awesome Australian picture books for helping children with worries

Stories are powerful. They can inspire, entertain, reassure, and teach us. In therapy with children, stories can provide a different perspective on a problem, normalise experiences, educate and provide ideas and metaphors to continue to reflect on. Most children are familiar with picture books, so reading a story together can provide a non-threatening and enjoyable context to open up a conversation with an anxious child. We sometimes find it helpful to read a short book together in a therapy session, or to send the book home for a family to read together. There are many lovely picture books available that may be helpful for worried children. Here are two recently published Australian books that we love…


I Have a Worry – by Tanya Balcke

I Have a Worry is a short and very simple story about having a worry, so even young children are likely to enjoy and understand it. In the book, the child’s worry is depicted visually as external to the child, and the author does a lovely job of exploring and normalising the experience of worrying and encouraging children to share their worries with others.

Why do we like this book?

The accompanying colouring-in book is fantastic! It allows children to actively engage with the book through colouring and activities, and in doing so they can explore and personalise the messages. For example, they can draw their own worry, consider what they’d like to say to their worry, and consider who can help them carry their worry. These activities and the metaphor of a worry as being like a creature sitting on the child’s shoulder effectively externalise the worry – the worry is not the child and not part of the child, but is instead separate from the child. This is a powerful therapeutic technique. The therapeutic approach of scaling a worry is also gently introduced (sometimes it is small and sometimes it is big), and the messages of it being normal to have worries and helpful to share worries are very clear.


Hey Warrior – by Karen Young (author) and Norville Dovidonyte (illustrator)

Hey Warrior aims to educate children about anxiety in order to empower them to better manage this strong emotion. It has a lot of content and because of this may be best suited to children aged over about five or six years old. It provides accurate and thorough psycho-education which allows children and their parents to understand the function of anxiety and why it feels the way it does in the body, mixed with powerful, positive messages.

Why do we like this book?

We love its friendly depiction of our amygdalas as powerful warriors who protect us by preparing our bodies for action! Warriors who are protectors and doers not thinkers, who sometimes work too hard and prepare us for action unnecessarily. Anxiety as a helpful, functional response, not something to be avoided or feared. It helps children and their parents to understand and accept – even value – their amygdalas and the role they play related to anxiety. At the same time, it empowers children to be in charge, and teaches them how to relax their amygdalas through calm words or breathing.

These are now two of our favourite children’s books! We’d love to hear about your favourite books for helping children with emotions.

Dr Suzanne Barrett
Clinical Psychologist
Creative Child Therapy Workshops.

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